So, today is the day my publishers announced the release of my new book and title (“I Don’t Belong To You“)!! I’m very excited, I have been working on this since Cinderella and I’ve had the idea for even longer. I’m so grateful to be in a place that allows me to share in this way. I am so thankful for those who have supported me, the ones I have and have not met. With all the gratitude in my heart, below is the first ever released excerpt from my book. I hope you all enjoy
When I was younger, I was always so afraid of change and of losing certain aspects or qualities about myself, as if even the smallest change would make ‘ME’ less ‘ME.’ For example, I was really worried that if and when I lost my virginity, I wouldn’t be Keke ‘the good girl’ anymore. Who would I be if I weren’t Keke the good girl or ‘Keke the virgin?’ If that one thing changed about me what would I have left? (Answer in my head:’ Keke The Freeeeeak’!!)
Kinda crazy right? Let’s say Jennifer with the pretty blond hair cuts her hair or dyes it black– does she cease being Jennifer? Does the slightly chubby girl with the cute face who loses 10 pounds suddenly become a completely different person? The answer is a big NO to both of those questions.
I’m pretty sure you are dealing with your own set of unfairly placed labels—-‘the poor girl,’ ‘the rich girl,’ ‘the mixed kid,’ ‘the jock,’ ‘the trans kid, ’the only black kid’ or any number of other untrue and hurtful titles that have nothing to do with what’s really going on inside of you.
But here’s the BIG thing I’m learning, —who we are and what we are belongs to us and us alone! What that means in real talk is that we don’t belong to other people and we don’t belong to other people’s expectations of us. Even more real talk–we also don’t belong to our own old ideas of who we thought we should be or what we thought we should do. Bomb! It’s pretty cool knowing I’m not attached to anything that weighs me down as I continue on this journey we call life. Here’s the other big thing—you aren’t either!
We’re all made up of so many different moving parts on both the inside/ outside– and those parts will often vary moment to moment and day to day. The most fabulous part about that for me is knowing that I have the freedom and the flexibility to find my OWN voice in my own way and on my own time. I have the option to choose what I like about myself, what I don’t and how I handle that. It’s on me and up to me to decide which traits of mine that make me feel good about myself and which ones I need to let go. No one else has a vote!